Sometimes I actually have to reflect on how I got where I am in the quidditch community, and it's because of Ajantha Abey. First I've got to clear away years of, as he's set my name in his messages, "Mutual Patronisation and Endless Anguish", which we somehow decided summarises our friendship.
And then I can be honest and say this is a person who is constantly looking for something to make better, and that's an admirable characteristic I only wish I had myself. What a truly, truly ridiculous human being. I met him, probably, a mere day or two before his first quidditch training. Seeing his growth from quiet newbie to the powerhouse of community volunteering and leadership everyone knows today is a strange thing to reflect on, but it's something so intrinsic to my own journey into quidditch because I only got to swim in this wonderful community through the efforts of volunteers like AJ.
In 2014 I was wondering, "Why won't my friend from Intermediate Latin hang out with us after class? He always has this quidditch thing on?" By 2016 I was having a huge laugh realising that everyone in Europe was crazy about AJ, too, and months before his return from exchange in Bristol I was already telling every acquaintance who'd listen, "I'm going to finally try quidditch when a friend of mine comes back home," because apparently that was the most interesting thing about me at the time, and three years of his crazy stories had finally worn me down (someone please dig up the photos of AJ seeking and hanging onto his broom like a sloth while Damo curls him like a set of weights).
This man gets to WORK. Plenty of other people can attest to the electric shock he gave USYD Quidditch Club over 2017-18, the amount of clear-headed and loving effort he put into finding ANYTHING around him and making it BETTER, SOMEHOW. He saw needs and demands no one else had probably considered and created things from scratch just because he knew it would be important. Like a true mad scientist and true Renaissance man, he's done this everywhere he has ever gone, and it's no wonder Australia and Europe is in love with him. I use the word "engagement" so much now for reasons unclear to me, but I know it's AJ's fault.
In 2016 AJ told me (jokingly? I think?) [only partly - AJ], “You have a lot of repressed anger issues. You’d make a good beater.” In 2017 he was hugging me while I laugh-cried (mostly cried) about how I could ever impress my big stupid crush if I wasn’t even a decent beater. In 2018 he said some of my quidditch photography shots were good. And in October 2019, in a match I will never let anyone forget was when the Unforgivables nearly toppled the Unbreakbles on the very first step of their run through the NQL finals – AJ said my beating was exceptional. It wasn’t the first game day compliment to be exchanged between friends, but I remember it as an interesting marker of how young adults grow into adults, skills and relationships grow, honesty pops up in between the banter, and how the years really, really do not stop coming.
Anyway, this is an inspiring person in our community, I guess. Happy birthday, Aj.
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Lilian began playing with the University of Sydney Quidditch Club in 2017, and now plays with the Valkyries Quidditch Club, having been a team captain and community photographer.
Photo: Ajantha Abey Quidditch Photography
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